Loving the Enemy
By Catherine Fransson
“Hang in there.
We'll make it.” Author Catherine Fransson shares a touching memoir
about a time in her life that so many people struggle through. It's a
time as an adult, when you are juggling your own life
responsibilities, and at the same time the need to care for people
you once depended on for so much, your aging parents. Often at this
stage a family relationship can be laced not only with concerning
health problems, but also accumulated personality dysfunctions.
Loving the Enemy provides touching insights from one family's
story, and hope that a troubled starting point does not define how a
journey together ends.
The author shares
times overwhelmed with questions that won't go away, decisions that
have to be faced, and especially emotions that surface, sometimes
from unknown depths within. She offers sweet and telling meditations
and faith as methods for carrying on. She brings special meaning to
what so many mistakenly overlook as unimportant details. Most of all,
there is a hope about how people continue to learn and gain
perspective, all through life, all the way to the end of it. And
while there may be times you cannot be happy, that sometimes you can
be reconciled. Even then there can be memorable moments that at an
earlier point in time may never have even been imaginable.
Who is prepared for
endings? Even when expected, they rock your foundation. This memoir
raises some very interesting philosophical points. Helping someone
else toward their ending can also bubble up feelings about how
everyone's time will come, even our own. What helps us through
endings? Who helps us? Not just family, friends, and there's a gentle
reminder in this memoir of the sweet care and understanding of so
many of the health and assisted living workers who are an essential
aid and comfort to so many.
The author,
Catherine Frannson was ordained to the ministry at Seattle First
Baptist Church in 2000. As staff pastor she also served as adjunct
faculty teaching Pastoral Counseling Skills with a colleague at the
School of Theology and ministry at Seattle University. She's had a
lifelong faith and commitment to empower others. You can find her
blogs at at www.spiritstones.net
The author lives in
the Seattle area, in Edmonds and her parents lived in Everett. The
history, sites, and lifestyle references of this area add to the
nostalgia of the flashbacks to her family as she grew up. As an
adult, she was surprised to learn things about her parents that she
never knew. And she also learned about a courage within each of them,
and within herself so they could all “hang in there. We'll make
it,” as her father was reconciled to say. All the way to the end
where there is meaning, if you make it meaningful. Reading this
memoir may give you ideas of how you can brighten that time for
yourself and others.